GirlFriends Schmirlfriends
I flat out give up. I'm simply not cut out to have girlfriends. It's like there is this whole world of gossip that goes on between a group of girlfriends and I just don't like it. I don't like being blindsided with "Oh, yea, ____ was telling me about this situation...." (said situation with my yoga instructor). I mean, if I tell one person one thing it doesn't mean that I want the whole entire community to know about it. Why is that so difficult to understand. So, I give up. I've decided that I should just live what I live... I live in suburbia, not a commune. I live around a lot of mainstream thinking people, not a group of attachment parents. I don't have to parent like them or like how they parent but as long as they respect me, I can respect them. I just give up. I don't think I will ever have "great" girlfriends because I just don't understand your typical woman.
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Julie, I honestly think that girlfriends are a lot more work than male friends. Ever since I was in grade 7 or 8 my close friends have been male. I have always had a few special girlfriends as well, but mainly hung out with boys/men. Same for highschool and then university. Ah, memories...jr.high is was Mike, Steve in highschool and Rob and Jason in university. The only one I've lost contact with is Rob.
I do talk to my girlfriends a lot in recent years though, since we've all had children and all of us are nursing and share the same struggles and joys. It's just not the same to gripe about all-night nursing to someone who hasn't been there, yk?
Maybe the problem with your situation is that you all hang out together based on *proximity* and not a pre-existing friendship or shared beliefs and interests. The group dynamic of it all seems to be what is making your women friendships that much harder to work.
Maybe?
Posted by: Carolyn | August 10, 2002 12:34 PM
Yes it does seem to be the group dynamic. Perhaps I'm just not good with groups of women :) Like yourself, my friends always tend to be male.
Posted by: Julie | August 10, 2002 2:14 PM