I don't even know who my son is anymore. Over the past 2 months we have progessively been getting just out of hand (by my standards). Everything is a fight. Everything - from taking off shoes, to washing hands... we end up with tears and tantrums right and left. I'm at my wits end. I try to talk about feelings. I try to talk about what is an option and what isn't. I try to talk about what we can do together. I have been told that I am "mean" and that he "doesn't love me" if I don't let him to do exactly what it is he wants no matter how inappropriate. I really want to say that this is all my fault, that The Daughter's high-needs really put The Son out and that he's rebelling and I do think there is some truth in that but I also think this is developmental. Everything in the back of Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline for "3-5 year olds" my son is doing. So, it's normal...but Goddess how does one DEAL with this stuff? Sometimes I can't find natural consequences and sometimes it doesn't even matter if there are any. I heard myself saying "go to your room" the other day and I cringed. Those words could not have possibly come out of *MY* mouth! The Husband & I are both struggling with how to handle these crazy 4 year old issues. I am hoping to take a redirecting children's behaviour course soon but, honestly, I know what I'm supposed to do ... it just doesn't seem to work.